Roach, why is so much gay media so incredibly depressing? Am I not looking in the right places? Films, books, even comics so rarely have a happy ending for queer characters. It really gets me down. :(
I know right? I’m so tired of the ‘BEING GAY IS SO MEANINGFUL AND TRAGEDY IS MEANINGFUL LET’S WATCH THESE TWO LESBIANS DIE SLOWLY FOR TWO SAD HOURS’ agenda.
Your basic options for dodging that shit are: 1) queer ebook imprints and 2) fanfiction.
Books and movies that make it to mainstream publication are like—I don’t know, they make me super uncomfortable a lot of the time. They’re all about like THIS IS THE STRUGGLE, LOOK, LOOK AT IT, LOOK AT THE SADNESSES. The most popular recommended stuff I’ve tried comes off like disaster tourism for straights, and a lot of the other more private stuff still seems like… a cataloguing of hurts. We need that, I think, to forefront the injustice queers still face and to pay our respect to elder generations of queers, but like, man, if I see another fucking lesbian couple kick it I am gonna lose my shit.
I have totally forgotten which queer publishers are good and which are to be avoided, since I mostly stick to fanfiction, but go tug on cyphercat's sleeve and definitely vintar's too. They'll point you in the right direction.
If anyone else has any recommendations for fun, positive queer stories, please reblog!
Literally the only happy queer thing I can think of right now is Night Vale, and the queer storyline in that - while totally as much at the forefront as it should be and as far away from queerbaiting as it can get - is still not the full focus of the show because there are so many other delightful things happening. Sailor Moon’s queer ladies strike me the same way - they’re queer and happy together but they’re mostly busy saving the world and looking amazing in nineties fashion.
Happy queer movies/shows/books about queer people just being happy and queer? Queer romcoms? Pretty much nonexistent. There’s an assumption that the discovery of sexual identity + the coming out process has to be traumatic, and that that trauma and the following struggles of facing heteronormative society are the only things worth writing about. It’s incredibly frustrating.
Imagine Me and You is happy, for the most part! Opinions may vary but I really liked that movie. I hear Lumberjanes is great, and also going to be super queer! That’s something to check out. Basically, though - I feel this so hard, and I am also looking for recs.
EDIT: But I’m a Cheerleader also!! That movie is so great, and stars baby Natasha Lyonne and love of my life Clea DuVall
straight person commenting on bad representation: I love how its not even made into *A Thing* (: